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I haven't been on LJ very long, and I've met some great people. The problem is that I often check out someones profile and am surprised to find out how strongly they discourage contact. (Believe me, I have no intention of bothering them after I read something like that.) Are there really that many people on LJ who lurk around harassing people? If there are, give me a friendly warning. I need to know how to protect myself.

What I'm wondering is, if you do not possess some degree of openness, how do you meet people?

After looking around a bit,I'm assuming that a private message is the best way to inquire about friending someone.

If I have committed any journal no-nos, then let me know. As I've said, I'm new to this and don't know the ropes.

Thanks to all of the wonderful people that have friended me. I didn't know that I was going to have this much fun.

Date: 2009-03-02 05:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] treehugrsgirl.livejournal.com
There are those like exes that want to know what certain people are up to and can use their blogs against them. Plus sometimes people don't want their Real Life to merge with their internet life, so they keep things private.

Private message or if you see them in a group you belong to and want to friend them, reply in message and they should respond!!

Date: 2009-03-02 06:16 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] coba1t-blue.livejournal.com
To be honest, anyone who doesn't want strangers to read their stuff, should post it as "friends only"- like mine. Because I'm a teacher, I post very few things in the public forum. I learned my lesson the hard way when I posted a pic of me, and two female teachers I used to work with at a pool party at coach's house. We were all holding drinks, and you'd have thought, I'd gone out and shot a litter of puppies.

Date: 2009-03-02 07:28 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rhodielady-47.livejournal.com
I'm still in the dark about some aspects of Live Journal etiquette myself so I try to be as polite as possible to everyone I meet.
I have encountered several nasty trolls on LJ and once even in the Gardening community. There are two of those trolls I'm still not sure why they attacked.
There was one community I tried to become a part of that soon sent me a chilly get lost message. Turned out that their community was composed of these characters they'd created and they'd all given their characters journals. (I hope I am remembering this correctly.) Unfortunately, they didn't bother to inform anybody about all this and I blundered into the middle of it all. I never posted on that community again!
There are other communities that state up front that they are by invitation only--no others may post there.

Meeting people and making friends on LJ is still largely a trial-and-error process for me. Most of the people I now correspond with I met through the Gardening Community. Some people like my posts and some don't. Those people who respond to my posts often are the ones I often ask to friend me and me them. I have had one or two folks turn me down. But I'm enjoying being friends with the rest of them AND YOU.
Hope this helps.
:)


Date: 2009-03-02 09:09 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] emike2k3.livejournal.com
I mainly keep my journal "Friends Only" to keep it out of the Google Cache and the eyes of my employer as I do occasionally rant about work. If I notice someone has friended me without a message first then I will read through their own LJ and decide on whether or not to return the favor. There are some who just add people so they have larger friends lists. A couple of years ago some local 15 year old girl friended me and I have never returned the favor as it kind of freaked me out.

Date: 2009-03-02 10:21 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] eqfe.livejournal.com
Folks use LJ for a variety of reasons, some even on the advice of their mental health professional. Others like to limit their LJ flist to just RL friends, or a very small group of people. Others hold "friending" parties to make more friends. Others have flists in the 100s I've even seen some in the 1000s. Its a personal decision.
You're no different than a lot of us. If you have a positive interaction with someone in a comm or on a friends LJ you check out the person's profile, in part to see if it make sense adding them to your flist. I think its healthy that the folks who want to limit their lj are honest about that in their profile.
Many people use friends filters to decide what to read, and who gets to read their posts. I'm fairly binary its usually either all friends or everyone for me.
When you're around a little longer, you'll experience the fcut. This is where folks will prune back their flist, usually dropping people they don't interact with. Its hysterical how emotional this gets.

Date: 2009-03-02 02:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] speaks.livejournal.com
I'm fairly cavalier about friending people that seem interesting to me. It doesn't really cost them much and if they don't want strangers reading their journal they can always post friends-only and not friend me back.

There used to be a really cool application where you could search LJ for people that shared your interests. It would come up with like the 20 people in LJ most like you. Unfortunately as livejournal has grown, that feature was disabled.

You can still find friends by interests if you click on the interests, but you cant find people that share multiple interests with you at the same search.

Most of my recent friendings have been friends of friends who said something that I saw as interesting.

Date: 2009-03-02 02:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] scoobiedoggie.livejournal.com
Did ya read my profile?? LOL

Not long after I joined LJ, my best friend and I had problems with people who we knew in real life (from where we grew up). Since I am no longer in Indiana where they are they decided to screw with me on here.
I had these two people who would follow me around to whatever community I joined just to harass me. It was like being stalked and it really was quite strange and aggravating. I got thrown out of a community because of the stupidity they were doing. I even tried moving to myspace and they came there too.
It was disturbing.

Date: 2009-03-04 06:39 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nostalgiafreak.livejournal.com
I'll tell you something I didn't feel alright telling you before. At first I thought your LJ was merely one of those spam profiles that often pop up on social networking websites. I almost didn't add you as I thought I had seen a new LJ low.

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